I lose it on the eMu boards
On a thread about cheap opera downloads, I finally snapped.
I was trying to address a problem head-on, but I might just be making things worse. But it didn't create the storm it might have, probably because few people read long classical threads.
I'm interested to know what you guys think of my response - how wrong or right was I?
I was trying to address a problem head-on, but I might just be making things worse. But it didn't create the storm it might have, probably because few people read long classical threads.
I'm interested to know what you guys think of my response - how wrong or right was I?
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Me, I think the blanket insults of board members is both cowardly and vacuous. Rather than address what one or two people are saying specifically, people instead create an entire population of strawmen then begin to tear them down with indirect unsubtle allusions to real board members. It's sort of an infantile passive aggression. On other boards, when a new member starts with that kind of blanket attack, if the mods don't nip that shit in the bud, that new member will just eventually become a pain in the ass old member.
You could've found a more tactful way of saying 'fuck off', but that's more about the message than the meaning. And y'know what? He (she) could've done the same thing, too.
Seems to me that whenever I see anything of interest over on that board its been posted by "the old guard" anyway...
We do know he is a doctor from MN, so it all fits. And it just so happens the good doctor has a wife named Jill, middle initial "M".
Oh all right, I admit I'm just one of the snooty old guard with nothing positive to say.
The jillm account is under his wife's name (that's been verified). He was probably logged in under her account with the intent to use up credits, saw the post, and couldn't resist posting, not even giving a thought that he was logged in under a different name than usual. I'm guessing that's why his reply to my asking "Ray-Ray is that you?" was "Do You even have to ask?" He doesn't seem to be too concerned about hiding his identity - in fact he relishes having his username associated with harsh comments about the old timers.
Confirmed! Well, I realize as soon as the message appears. Sometimes I wish for an "ah, shit, I didn't mean to do that" button. That earlier jillmmarier post I linked to above was obviously a case of Raymond going the same.
(Hi Raymond! We know you like reading what those arrogant elitists are saying about you.)
As for changing your username, I believe you need diabolical html for that.
The thread could get pretty raunchy after a post like that.
You weren't kidding.
ETA: my mistake, someone had. Nevertheless, opera was very much the proving ground for national ambition, and it is a propos.
Even in more contentious threads people are usually more accepting of corrections than he.
You were right. My "ego" was not only big enough to come here and see what everyone was saying about me, but it compelled me to join the clubhouse.
I won't bother replying to everything here. But there is one thing I want to single out.
Froggie, cyberstalking me and my family is not acceptable. I am sickened by what you have done on this thread. I'll take my lumps on a messageboard. It's just a fucking messsageboard. But posting information online about my loved ones is an all new low for you and lower then ANYTHING I have witnessed here or on the emu boards.
That said, nice clubhouse you guys have built here. Where are the snacks?
...but I might just be making things worse. But it didn't create the storm it might have, probably because few people read long classical threads.
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I hadn't looked at the eMu board for a couple days... guess it finally created the storm you were fearing it might have, huh?
Everybody play nice now.
Damn. I must be losing my touch...
So apologies if I missed an apocalypse or two.
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in the future, please use the private message feature for such direct discourse. regardless of how right or wrong you may be, the option exists here and would get the message to the person who offended you...rather than all of us seeing another round of combat.
with that said, if it turns out we can all break the cycle of harsh, then great...welcome aboard. if not, then we all fall victim to a banal brick wall of our own creation.
finally, not to play referee - but you know that you will have a greater responsibility in this equation than anyone else...it isn't fair, but if predictable results happen...xtrev holds the delete key.
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